Questions and Answers
Some people make friends easy, they excel in school and work, and they do great in life. Some people don’t do these things, but they still are well liked and have some friends. You aren’t one of these people, but here is how to accept yourself.
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Steps
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Pay attention to the things you say and observe people’s reactions to them. If you find yourself constantly getting a negative reaction, think about what you’re saying. Why would they give a negative reaction only to you? Why might other people not like it? Once you’ve figured that out, try to avoid saying the same thing again.Ad
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Pay attention to what other people like. This doesn’t mean you have to force an interest in something you don’t like in order to make friends, but it will make you a better listener (always an attractive quality) and you might find someone with mutual interests. The more you research over various aspects of friendship and people, the more you will be aware not just about these but about where you are and how far you could go. -
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Apologize. If you figure out or believe that you have indeed done something deserving of being disliked and you would like to get over it, then you could apologize and move on. Everyone makes mistakes and one need not be sidelined for it forever. Remember not to overdo it. -
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Be yourself. Yes, it’s an overused sentiment but that’s because it’s true. Always remember that it’s still better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you aren’t. You will find friends that like you for you. If you don’t then befriend a hobby, a pet, an activity or get engrossed in something constructive. So you will not waste your energy is pain but direct it in self-help and progress. -
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Remember it’s not a battle. Don’t look at it as a planned act. Those who react negatively to you may not remember you the next second. Hence, you must also not give them much time or consideration. Develop a sense of humor to let go of it and not have it affect you. -
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Evaluate your interests. Do you do anything special or different from others? If so, people find it awkward to deal with those who choose different paths or who have different likes or dislikes. If what you do is important to you then you have every right to follow it regardless of who supports you and who doesn’t. If you could be a certain kind of a person, you could be that person with pride and dignity and not with self-doubt and embarrassment.Ad
